Under Thinking and a Missed Opportunity
This could only happen to me. As I turned the corner at the end of an aisle in the grocery store today I nearly bumped into a very attractive young woman who I was certain is a co-worker. With a great deal of genuine enthusiasm I said something like “Hey, how are you? Good to see you.” She responded in similar fashion, leading me to believe it was who I thought it was, although I couldn’t quite remember her name at that second. She did look a little different that Meghan but I assumed that was because Meghan is usually dressed up and not ‘weekend casual’.
A few minutes later I saw her again and with all the enthusiasm and confidence I have around people I work with I asked “So how are things?”, to which she replied “Things are great. How about with you?” I went on to say something about being new to the neighborhood and always thinking I’ll eventually run into people I know. She agreed. Neither of us made reference to work so I thought maybe she wasn’t sure it was me because she’s never seen me with the goatee. And I was starting to doubt she was Meghan.
Let me point out that if I see an attractive woman I don’t know who I might want to meet, I usually over think what I might say. I’ll come up with something lame that sounds like a pickup line and the conversation will usually end with that. I also do the wedding ring check. OK, so I’m an optimist with a clumsy streak.
So as I finished unloading my basket in the checkout line, I turned and realized she was right behind me. She saw me and said “You again. Hi again.” She asked me which of the two nearby communities I live in and said “Welcome to the neighborhood. I’m Trisha, by the way.” My ‘out loud’ response was “Hi I’m Bernie.” In my head I was saying, well it’s not Meghan. It IS a very attractive, friendly woman who I never would have had such an incredible conversation with if I had thought about it in advance. And I probably just blew chance for a second meeting by not even thinking about suggesting it. And I didn’t do the wedding ring check.
Chances are she is married, partly because of the part of the neighborhood she lives in is mostly families. But unless I run into her again by some miracle, I’ll never know. Possible blown opportunity. Great story though.