I recently found an incredible nugget of self-help. Basically it’s a list of 21 things to let go to become happy. Click Here for the whole article. Although it is written for men, the advice is not really gender-specific. I do not agree with all of it, but there are plenty of suggestions that I believe are helpful and I had already adopted some of this advice before finding this article.
Here are a few of my takeaways, quoted directly from the article:
Know that you can’t control much in life, but you can always control your reaction. Flow through the world smoothly. When there is resistance, flow around it. When there is opportunity, flow right through it.
Remember, we have no control over the things that happen to us and the changes that occur around us, but we always have control over how we respond.
Let go of thinking you are not enough. You are enough and you deserve to have everything that you want. You’re also your worst enemy and your hardest life critic
When you tell yourself you can’t do it, you’re always right. You can or you can’t. The decision is yours.
For many people, what’s called Automatic Negative Thinking can be crippling—throughout their day, constantly, hundreds of times, negative thoughts buzz through their head.
It’s hard to get good things done when your head’s full of negative emotions.
Likewise, automatic positive thoughts can help propel you to new levels of happiness and productivity. You set the tone and control your mind fully. Take control of it, make a habit of positive thinking, and watch the results follow. Start now.
So, focus on being the best version of yourself you can be, focus on the people you care about, and focus on the activities and goals you’re passionate about. When you follow your truest desires, that drive and optimism will translate into all the money you need to live the life you want.
Speaking of quotes, here are a few from well-known people. These are also noted in the article.
It’s being here now that’s important. There’s no past and there’s no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.
– George Harrison
Building up your resume is like saving up sex for old age
– Warren Buffet
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
– Jim Morrison
If the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?
– Nicholas Sparks