Boomer Randomness

It seems like the words alone and lonely are interchangeable, but they are not. We strive for human connection.   We want to be in physical proximity to other humans, usually of the opposite gender.   We want the emotional connection, conversational connection, being-in-the-same-room connection.   Sometimes we want to share emotional intimacy and physical intimacy.   We are lonely when we don’t have a certain amount of those forms of connection. We can be surrounded by people (and not alone), yet be very lonely. Being alone can be a positive state of mind.   If we are comfortable with ourselves, we like being in a room or home with nobody else in our space.   We seek balance between being alone and being in the presence of another being.   If we have emotional connections with people, we are often satisfied that we are not alone, just a little lonely. This thought all started with a text conversation with a friend who lives ...

A co-worker had a colonoscopy last week and two of my closest friends had colonoscopies this week.   And isn’t it a full moon this week?   Odd.   Everyone is OK, by the way. I woke up to a breaking news story about a landslide in Whidbey Island WA.   A cousin has a place there.   I emailed, she emailed back a little later … fortunately their place wasn’t affected. Facebook was the home of uninformed, extreme candidate bashing during the election.   Now it’s the home of uninformed, extreme bashing of those who won, especially the President, and many issues, especially gun control and gay marriage.   This topic will be its own blog post here soon, but for now let me just say this … don’t use extreme right or extreme left websites as a source.   And for God’s sake, don’t use Fox notreallyNews Network!   Or Rush, who is celebrating 25 years of bullshit this month. Great line in a song from back in the day: “Oh we’re never gonna...

Good books, like good friends, are few and chosen; the more select, the more enjoyable. Louisa May Alcott There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will. - Unknown "If you're alone, I'll be your shadow. If you want to cry, I'll be your shoulder. If you want a hug, I'll be your pillow. If you need to be happy, I'll be your smile... But anytime you need a friend, I'll just be me." - Unknown Friendship isn't about whom you have known the longest... It's about who came, and never left your side... - Unknown Anyone can make you smile or cry But it takes someone special to make you smile When you already have tears in your eyes - Unknown A good friend helps you up when you fall. A best friend pees their pants laughing, trips you again, and calls you an a**hole. - Unknown You can always tell when two people are best friends because they're always...

I am curious about people, I study them and their behavior, I ask a lot of questions and I want answers to my questions even if I don’t like the answers.   I think I create an atmosphere of trust and comfort in which people can tell me personal things and not feel they are judged for their behavior.   But maybe I don’t. A few posts ago I told the story of a female friend who I occasionally socialized with who ‘unfriended’ me on Facebook after I suggested a ‘date’.   She said ‘no dating’, I said ‘no problem’; instead of acknowledging that, she cut off our main form of communication.   Did she think she couldn’t face me?   Did she think I didn’t mean it when I said not dating was not a problem?   Am I creepy or repulsive?   The initial invitation that set this all up was accepted at first, till she realized I was thinking ‘date’.   So until that moment, she wasn’t avoiding me.   And I thought I made it clear that I was OK with ‘n...

My logical side says that astrology as an indicator of personality characteristics cannot be true.   My personal experiences suggest otherwise.   I am referring to well thought out sign-based write-ups, not the daily horoscopes. I recently saw a sign-by-sign write up that phrased things a bit differently than most of what I had seen before.   Funny that three of the signs I have the most positive feelings about had the most ‘accurate’ descriptions.   This is not a slight against other zodiac signs; about 75% of each of these just happen to fit so many people I know who were born in the range of dates associated with these signs. Enjoy.   I am Aquarius, by the way. AQUARIUS - Does It in the Water (January 20 to February 18) Trustworthy. Attractive. Great kisser. One of a kind. Loves being in long-term relationships. Tries hard. Will take on any project. Proud of themselves in whatever they do. Messy and unorganized. Procrastinators. Great love...